You may be dreaming of doing that TED talk or taking part in Pecha Kucha. Perhaps you regularly present to clients or prospective clients and feel you could be much more impactful. Or maybe you’ve joined a networking group and want to brush up on your elevator pitch or present your business in a more professional way.
Whatever your reasons for wanting to improve your public speaking skills, there are a few simple tips you can use to improve them immediately, without hours of training. Here they are.
Write to speak
This may seem obvious, but many people – when writing a speech, presentation or elevator pitch – write to read. In other words, they write, and then read what they’ve written, thinking it all sounds great, but they neglect to speak the words out loud to themselves. Only when you do this can you hear whether the rhythm is pleasing to the ear. By writing to speak, you can tell where pauses are needed, when sentences are too longwinded, or when things just don’t quite sound right.Know your topic inside out
This goes without saying, but I’m going to say it anyway. The better you understand the topic, the easier you will be able to speak off-the-cuff. I have attended many a Toastmaster meeting where the speaker “went blank” and then had to quickly (awkwardly) find the exact spot in their notes, because they were talking about a topic they didn’t know much about. They were relying on memory and notes rather than inherent knowledge. When you are speaking about something you know about, you also immediately come across as more authentic.Boost your own confidence
A staggering percentage of people have a fear of public speaking. They get nervous, sweaty, even panic-stricken. If this is you, spend a few minutes before your talk (and even when you are practicing) boosting your own confidence. In other words, talk yourself up.
Start by straightening your back, lifting your chin, squaring your shoulders… and then remind yourself of all the reasons you are awesome! It may sound - and even feel – silly, but positive self-talk can instantly boost your confidence in any situation, even when you are about to speak publicly. Maybe you come up with a few mantras you can say to yourself. Say it. Mean it. Feel it. So often before doing something daunting, we are unconsciously saying things to ourselves like: “oh jeez, this is so scary. What if I go blank? I’m so nervous I could die.” This will only perpetuate the nerves. Do the opposite and the opposite will happen. Oh, and smile! (Not a toothy, nervous, get-me-the-hell-out-of-here smile, but a genuine smile…)Breathe
It is an indisputable fact that slow, deep breathing calms the nerves. Before you practice, and of course before you speak, get into a habit of taking nine slow, calming breathes. You can also couple the breathing with the mantras from the previous tip – double whammy. And the genuine smile – triple whammy!Slow down
The more nervous we feel, the faster we tend to talk. You can trick your mind into thinking it’s super calm by slowing your speech down and talking in a calm manner. Talking slowly also conveys confidence and makes your audience feel calmer. Practice speaking slowly!Lose the fillers
Related to the previous point - you’ve probably listened to a podcast or talk where the speaker uses filler words all the time. If so, you know that it can be really distracting. Of course I am talking about um, er, ah, like, so, and similar. You may not even know you do it, because it’s become an unconscious nervous habit. And how do you lose the filler words? Pause instead. Instead of: “So um, what I want to, um, tell you about today, is um, the benefit of using this, um, product”, SLOW DOWN, and you will find it easier to simply pause instead of saying “um”. Practise!Use anchors
Whether you are presenting to a few clients in a boardroom, speaking to a large audience or presenting in an online meeting, find two or three “anchors” in the audience. It could be someone you know sitting in the font row, or a few friendly faces in the crows. Find their eyes every now, at regular intervals and during your talk. It helps you to feel more grounded when you speak and has the added benefit of making these people feel like you are really engaging with them. The more you practice, the easier you will be able to identify more anchors, so that you are engaging with more people. Don’t make it weird by locking eyes with one person and never blinking or looking away again. It should be natural, connecting, relaxed, and uncreepy.Cut the sway away
Another common habit when nervous in front of an audience is to sway the body, or move the weight of the body from one foot to the other. The speaker might not even know they are doing it, but the audience will find it extremely distracting. Stand with your feet slightly apart, shoulders back. If it’s appropriate and you can do it in a natural way, you can step forward, step back, step to the side, even take a few steps towards the audience or walk to one side of the room and back rather than standing on the spot swaying. Use your movement to reinforce the message. If you are sharing something personal, step forward and lean in. If you are talking about two opposite things, step to the one side while talking about thing A, and then to the other when talking about thing B.Use your hands naturally
Many people also don’t know what to do with their hands. In this case, the hands may end up in the pockets or dandling at your side lifelessly. But you don’t do that when you are talking to friends, so all you need to do to fix this issue is try to be more natural. Don’t think about your hands or arms, just use them the way you would in a normal, everyday conversation. Some people exaggerate the hand movements to emphasise a point. This is great to be more engaging and emphatic, but make sure it comes across natural, otherwise it can just seem rehearsed and inauthentic.
Record yourself
Finally, to pick up on unconscious habits and know for sure where you can improve, record yourself giving your speech or presentation. Watch yourself back and don’t be put off by any discomfort this may cause you. You have to start somewhere, so unless you want to attend a two-day course and practice in front of 10 strangers, become comfortable with recording and watching yourself. This way, you can become your own trainer. As you watch the video/s, pay special attention to points 5 – 9 above.
As with all skills, practise is key. And the great thing about practising your public speaking skills is that you can start doing it in front of your dog, your mirror, your partner or your cat, without fear of judgment. (Except maybe from your cat. They can be quite judgey).
There is really no reason to fear public speaking. It’s not even remotely dangerous, so the fear is just your mind playing tricks on you. I invite you to print this out and practise these 10 tips and then get out there and promote your business or your ideas confidently!
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